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Maybe you do feel you have been given a tough time at work?

Could this well be your answer?

Modern day society is over loaded with Corporate Psychopath
As Counsellors & Psychotherapists we are regularly assisting individuals who have had their self esteem shattered & confidence destroyed by working with individuals who make their work life intolerable.

They do so by inflicting endless negative criticism, accusations and inexplicable demands.

If you are finding your self forever feeling under attack, nervous, unsure, feeling threatened, inner discomfort.

Feeling that maybe you should move on.

Do not move.

Arrange to see a Counsellor as soon as possible.


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What has this to do with Feral?

Energetic transference or "magnetic attraction" and repulsion in human relationships are readily displayed scientifically and experimentally by ferrous material and magnetism.

When one has a pair of magnets the thrust and repulse is readily sensed by hand and visually observable.

In relationship therapy we study the experience of these "Turn on" "Turned off" energetic sensations.

In a similar yet greatly removed energetic manner society is psychologically conditioned to act or move by advertising with repetitive printed and electronic medial exposing a particular product or service to be available for purchase which ultimately tempts or familiarises the mind to induce a purchase.

Advertising has been known to be effective.

So when a society is conditioned to a particular belief the people of that society become energetically influenced and tend to conform or risk being chastised, humiliated, imprisoned or at worst terminated.

This conditioning also happens in relationships with couples where we gradually become 'dull' to each other and need regular polishing to maintain our individual shine and excitement to attract our partners attention and also the attention of those around our life who may also tend to stressfully buff our shine from time to time.

"One can not give love to another if the giver does not love them self". 
 One can not give what One does not possess.


Multiplication is the name of the game and each generation just plays it the same.

Maybe through Relationship Counselling we have actually found an explanation for the foundation of the "7 year itch", however we would like to offer an opportunity to actually study just what is happening in your relationship and why you or your partner think separation will make either or both of you happy.

Yes, sure you will be able to come and go and spend time and money as you please.

But what exactly is it that you think your partner is "doing to you" which will change in you when the offending partner is out of your life.

Reality is that each party is normally carrying their own unresolved issues and their partner is unintentionally activating those old wounds or uncomfortable sensitivities.

To deliberately activate those "BUTTONS" is outright unacceptable DOMESTIC ABUSE.


Psychology of Love Addiction:

This state of being is commonly exposed when partners in a relationship separate.

Bring forth the all consuming, all-pervasive need for the other person where one partner or both feel incomplete without the other. The remaining member of the former relationship becomes mortified and desperately ridden by anguish.

It's a common scenario in today's world. It's also an example of a codependent relationship.

Where you compromise your own values to avoid another person's rejection or anger.

Following are just a few red flags of codependence
Difficulty defining ego boundaries.
This means the partners do not realize where one begins and one ends.

Partners that exhibit sadomasochism.
Meaning partners tend to either specialize or take turns playing abuser and victim.

  •    Each person being afraid to let themselves go and take risks either as individuals or as a part of the couple. They often tend to do the same things and do not try things that are different.
  •    Resisting and being fearful when a partner tries to grow personally. The other partner often views this as a threat.
  •    Not experiencing true intimacy in any sense - intellectually, spiritually, physically, or emotionally. Intensity takes the place of intimacy.
  •    Partners playing psychological games, as in one being the giver and one playing the victim.
  •    Addictive partners barter and keep score, rather than giving freely without expecting something in return.
  •    Partners attempting to change the other instead of dealing with their own problems or feelings.
  •    Partners requiring the other to feel complete.
  •    Seeking solutions for problems from their partners, instead of themselves.
  •    Demanding and expecting unconditional love. This type of love can only exist between a parent and a child.
  •    We don't always like or approve of what our partners
  •    There are behaviors a partner cannot allow in the relationship and might well result in its termination.
  •    Finding it hard to really commit to each other.
  •    Partners look to each other for affirmation and worth, rather than to themselves.
  •    Fearing abandonment when separated.
  •    A tendency to recreate old negative patterns with their present partners that occurred in childhood.
  •    Desiring, yet fearing closeness.
  •    Attempting to take care of others' feelings.
  •    Playing power and psychology games.

The psychology of additive infatuation is characterized by caring so much for a relationship with another person that self-love and self-respect begin to suffer.

These examples and indicators of dependency most certainly rise when couples become self defensive after being ridiculed, abused or neglected by their partner and then very quickly both parties go into a total pattern of self defence and all inter communication becomes lost.

Spirialing feelings of rejection, of being unheard, neglected, abandoned and unloved.

Resolving the the underlying trauma is essential to rebuild and recover these damaged relationships.

Call us at 777 Counselling Service and arrange your couples appointment to deal with these unresolved issues and free yourself and your relationship from those continuing arguments.

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Sexual Expressions of Co-Dependents

Relationship Therapy is often necessary if not essential for many people in society when traumatised individuals unconsciously enter into co- dependent relationships believing that with their partner's contribution to their life they will become whole, by having a partner to lean on.

With that stabilising "loving feeling" temporarily overriding old lonely wounds of emptiness.

But the loving feeling is temporary, never healing old wounds.

After a while we get to realise how we keep falling for some form of addictive patched on band aid for a companion, hoping for the partner to act as some "inner mummy" to kiss the pain better.

Again & again & again, it shall return in endless cycles of joy and sorrow, until we actually get to deal with the underlying trauma deep within the psyches furnace.

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