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IMG 0177 Our society has been so divided by the practice and unquestionable promotion
of idolatory behaviour in todays world. 
Most people have heard the 'all too easy' expression about needing to 
Love thy self.

This is all well and good, until we realise that unless we
actually possess,
mortgage free,
the self preserving esteem of
Yes, until we actually accept & return to possess self love we are incapable of giving love to any one.

One cannot give that which
One does not possess.

Emotional awareness to self idolatory behaviour has forever been within nature and seems to be adopted and promoted by all aspects of life where material and social benefits can be achieved through attachment to idolisation of material wares and human endeavours.
Self possessed by,
"Things & stuff".

Australia from space

Following here is a review to another amazing piece of literature which further acknowledges the disconnection with our move away from our spiritual connection to our life source as story tellers of time progressively lost contact with language of the universal spirit of life as they become mind driven and separated from the inner being arguing over the source of the Chicken & the Egg. 

We say practice Counselling because these days we find that each and every client teaches us more about the vagaries, expanding evolutionionary development and interrelated Universal connections to our air borne existence as mini micro human cells in the unlimited matrix of life. 

Yes in reality we most definitely have come quite a way from our ancestors when we start to consider the wisdom of those whose initial language development had an absolute & immediate connection to the life of our universal and earthly survival. 

Our work as Counsellors is about reconnecting people to the children they were born to be before they were cognitively led away to the never wilderness and left forever longing.
Left longing forever reaching out seeking love, wealth, material possessions, big homes, fast cars, social status, multiple partners.

Forever forgetting to see and appreciate the immediate surrounding air in which their body seeks and needs to live.

Todays society is comparable life of fish when we recognise that :
"The last thing fish discovers is water".
Or birds discover the wind beneath their wings.


Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

by Saul McLeod published 2007, updated 2014

Maslow wanted to understand what motivates people. He believed that people possess a set of motivation systems unrelated to rewards or unconscious desires.
Maslow (1943) stated that people are motivated to achieve certain needs. When one need is fulfilled a person seeks to fulfil the next one, and so on.
The earliest and most widespread version of Maslow's (1943, 1954) hierarchy of needs includes five motivational needs, often depicted as hierarchical levels within a pyramid.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs five stage pyramid.

This five stage model can be divided into basic (or deficiency) needs (e.g. physiological, safety, love, and esteem)
And growth needs (self-actualization).

The deficiency, or basic needs are said to motivate people when they are unmet.
Also, the need to fulfil such needs will become stronger the longer the duration they are denied.
For example, the longer a person goes without food the more hungry they will become.

One must satisfy lower level basic needs before progressing on to meet higher level growth needs.
Once these needs have been reasonably satisfied, one may be able to reach the highest level called self-actualization.

Maslow Spirit 
    1) Physiological:hunger, thirst, bodily comforts, etc.;
    2) Safety/security: out of danger;
    3) Belongingness and Love: affiliate with others, be accepted; and
  4) Esteem: to achieve, be competent, gain approval and recognition.

    Maslow later differentiated the growth need of self-actualization.
Specifically identifying two of the first growth needs as part of the more generallevel of self-actualization (Maslow & Lowery, 1998)
Second one beyond the general level that focused on growth beyond that oriented towards self (Maslow, 1971).
They are:
      5) Cognitive: to know, to understand, and explore;
      6) Aesthetic: symmetry, order, and beauty;


Being Single;

Korro  Bella"Yes", she said. "I am happy."

However, directed by my own pre-conditioned, social expectations and ignorance I replied.

"But wouldn't you like to be in a relationship"?

She waited, took her time considering her reply,
then she gently prized open my pre-conditioned dysfunctional socially believed attitude by confidentially replying.

"Aren't I enough as I am"?

Fortunately one never stops learning even though, 
Many lessons are,
At first rather tough to accept.

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In recent years there has been good exposure and discussion about work place harassment and bullying which is certainly unacceptable and disturbing.
In writing this we must say that there are always two sides to any disagreement which generally are based on attitudes of right and wrong conduct where one party feels hurt or offended by the manner in which they are spoken to, spoken of, or spoken about, actually abused or in their mind mistreated.
Too often this alienation of personalities creates an emotional division where the offended individual believes they should resist that which to their belief is unacceptable behaviour.

Such resistance by the offended party is too often met by an increase in expectation by the offender to enforce their self righteous belief. 

Neither party being prepared to surrender their ground and all surrounding and associated employees become distracted by the swirling emotional tension radiating through out the work place.

This leads to further division and even arguments in the work force.

So you come together as freshmen and freshwomen right out of "big school" thinking you are "all growed up", now you can get away without Mum & Dad knowing what you are up to, free and ready to rock and roll.

As if your parents don't already know just what your likely to get up to, having walked the identical early life romantic road as yourself.

All bells and whistles, parental freedom, pretty dresses, beautiful, radiant, nubile young women and muscle bound  prancing princes, shiny, energetic, strong free spirited young stallions bearing charming persuasion and good tidings.

Late &  even later nights, without curfew or delegated family mass attendance on Sunday morning, including the possibility of taking Holy Communion to dispell any imaginings of "naughty" sinful behaviour.

Dream connections. Maud Chalard 08



Pained Face of Shamed little boy

Here is another piece of work from the Good Men Project about Raising Boys with shame which I basically feel I understand, so I on posted and liked it to Facebook.

Our interest is in an ongoing study that we are calling “Accents of behaviour” or how we unwittingly adopt and develop our individual responding behaviours to stifle the internal discomfort (internal response) generated by those influencing development of our formative baby years.
More of the “what we see and hear is what we become” theme in accord with the “Little pigs have big ears” .

In the miracle of life we are granted complete self knowledge at conception. Miraculously our spirit of life  knows how to develop us in the womb placing all the organs, skeletal structure and essential bodily functions according to natures design for, in our case, humans.
Like respiration and digestion the miraculous process to exchange waste and exchange gas for new fuel also came with conception, as did our cardio vascular, nervous, visual, audio, sensory systems all introduced in perfect working order according to the DNA blue print contained within the merging of egg and sperm.
There is a mysterious thing
That existed before Heaven  and Earth,
Silent and empty,
Alone and unchanging,
Ceaselessly turning,
It is the Mother of All things.

If I must, I’ll call it “Great.”
Greatness entails transcendence.
Transcendence entails going beyond.
Going beyond entails return to the beginning.

Tao Te Ching XXV

Peak experience

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia


Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Essential Needs

Peak experience

  1.     A peak experience is a moment accompanied by a euphoric mental state often achieved by self-actualizing individuals.
  2.     The concept was originally developed by Abraham Maslow in 1964, who describes peak experiences as "rare, exciting, oceanic, deeply moving, exhilarating, elevating experiences that  generate an advanced form of perceiving reality, and are even mystic and magical in their effect upon the experimenter."
  3.    There are several unique characteristics of a peak experience, but each element is perceived together in a holistic manner that creates the moment of reaching one’s full potential.
  4.    Peak experiences can range from simple activities to intense events.
  5.    However, it is not necessarily about what the activity is, but the ecstatic, care-free feeling that is being experienced during it.


Stories through 
Music & the Arts

Johnny Cash, sure he was a lad in his day,
A real Highwayman with a pistol by his side.
Johnny & the Highwaymen hung in there seeking recognition for the hurt souls who lived within their bodies.
Willie & others began Farm Aid in 1985.

We love Johnny Cash because he let us feel the rebel in all of us,
Johnny Cash challenged the mob.
He used every known method to avoid feeling that
Endless Aching Need of the wounded child.

As is the case with too many wounded souls Johnny went to prison. 

Later he returned to sing to the prisoners.

We all feel at times that he was singing those songs on our behalf.

Listen see and Hear Johnny Cash sing
About the negative aspect of Prisons.

Old Johnny in Video and singing
The Song Hurt.

e know too well that Hurt People Hurt People.

Johnny did his healing by sharing his story through his music.

Boy Named Sue.

God's Gunna Cut You Down.
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We offer here yet another interpretation to the legendary story of the Prodigal son;
Seemingly synonymous with most indigenous scriptures, such ancient teachings have interesting anecdotal & potential meanings for those with "eyes to see and ears to hear".

Counselling is akin to assisting in the exposure of our basic psychological delusion from our founding customs, those adopted cultural & religiously indoctrinating influences which we treat as normal, as who we are.

There are just so many of those 'founding reasons' for shaping the expectation of emotional sadness, disappointment and pain often unintentionally delivered by denial of emotional nourishment & the associated consequential suppression & witholding of the pain.

Often we unwittingly inflict this habitual behaviour upon our self simply by being led 'off track' to be left, metaphorically, lost in the 'wilderness', constantly being tempted to practice avoidance behaviour which is forever prominent and promoted and advertised in the environment around us.

Subsequently we loose touch with our inner strength and confidence.

Essential self sustaining spiritual nourishment, natural healing becomes available by quietly sitting with a "free" mind, returning to the child and life we were born to be at that moment of our conception. 
Should you be troubled!
Surely you would like to find your way out of that aching empty soulless wilderness and be released into the kingdom of peace of mind  and contentment of self.

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