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For other uses, see Symbiosis (disambiguation).

In a cleaning symbiosis the clownfish feeds on small invertebrates, that otherwise have potential to harm the sea anemone, and the fecal matter from the clownfish provides nutrients to the sea anemone.
The clownfish is protected from predators by the anemone's stinging cells, to which the clownfish is immune, and the clownfish emits a high pitched sound that deters butterfly fish, which would otherwise eat the anemone. The relationship is therefore classified as mutualistic.

Symbiosis (from Greek συμβίωσιςsymbíōsis, "living together","together", and βίωσις, bíōsis, "living") is any type of a close and long-term biological interaction between two different biological organisms, be it mutualisticcommensalistic, or parasitic. The organisms, each termed a symbiont, must be of different species.
In 1879, Heinrich Anton de Bary defined it as "the living together of unlike organisms".

The term was subject to a century-long debate about whether it should specifically denote mutualism, as in lichens. Biologists have now abandoned that restriction.

Symbiosis can be obligatory, which means that one or more of the symbionts depend on each other for survival, or facultative(optional), when they can generally live independently.

Symbiosis is also classified by physical attachment.
When symbionts form a single body it is called conjunctive symbiosis, while all other arrangements are called disjunctive symbiosis. 
When one organism lives on the surface of another, such as head lice on humans, it is called ectosymbiosis; when one partner lives inside the tissues of another, such as Symbiodinium within coral, it is termed endosymbiosis.

Based on its biological usage, the term "symbiosis" can also be applied to mutually beneficial business relationships.

1987 a
Covid Born
Messiah’s Velcro.

A clinging vine our lost traumatised civilisation of humanity hooks itself 

In trophy scoring searches for continuing connection 

Re-connection to purity of solar rays.
Too many lost their way.

More of this

Locked in by implicit consciousness these Covid delivered energetic fragments 

Rise from life’s journey to awareness.

Stuck pieces appear revealing unresolved distorted moments,

Cellular eroding beauty to life itself.

Mandated return to this wilderness opportunity is offered to heal or fragment.


Life our Spiritual identity resides in body from beyond conception.

Spirit is forever open, 

Readily holds, receives, accept, shares love.


Spirit & Love are One

Love with light does not discriminate nor judge 

All are granted free will of love as a birth right.

Spiritual divinity of all life is natural.

Life is the I am.

Body lives & dies by such attachment.

Attachment is materialistically over exposure.

Bar Code zombies

Here the species of mankind HIM self mutated 

Volcanic Ego erupted  

With accumulated disability.

Individual Separation occurred.

Captured by ever observant unconscious implicity.

Broken Home 2

Purity of Spirit divided by cellular mutation 

Body,  Mind,  Spirit.

Such accumulated mutation manifests as disease.

Active Black Hole Egg

As with torn unhooked Velcro

Spirit departs on a breath.

Shoes and crumpled pants of man remain

His body goes back to ash from whence we came.

Leunig baby

Spirit shines seeded in new form.

Natural reconnection for rebirth.

Love is this Life.


Closing Message about

Walk forward
Ever thankful for your wonder filled journey.




The majority (70%) of Australians support an effective health warning on all alcohol products and would take action on the issue.
Almost a quarter (23%) of Australians are not aware that drinking alcohol when pregnant is harmful to an unborn baby.

» People aged 25-34 years old are the least aware, with 35% unable to correctly identify zero alcohol as the only safe amount.
Awareness of the specific health conditions caused by alcohol use during pregnancy is low. Almost one third (30%) of Australians are unaware alcohol can cause Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD) and almost one half (46%) of Australians are unaware of the risk of stillbirth.

  • »  People aged 25-34 years old are the least aware that FASD is associated with alcohol use during pregnancy (39% unaware), closely followed by 18-24 year-olds (35% unaware).

  • »  Men are less aware than women of health conditions associated with alcohol use during pregnancy, particularly for FASD, with 63% men aware and 77% women aware.
Less than one third (31%) of Australians recall seeing the current voluntary alcohol industry label on alcohol products.


Alcohol is a teratogen, an agent that can impact the development of an embryo or fetus.
Alcohol use during pregnancy can result in damage to the brain and other organs of the unborn baby, as well as low birth weight, failure to thrive, stillbirth and miscarriage.

Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD) is the term used to describe a range of lifelong physical and/or neurodevelopmental impairments caused by prenatal exposure to alcohol. FASD is a lifelong disability. Individuals with FASD will experience some degree of challenges in their daily living, and need support with motor skills, physical health, learning, memory, attention, communication, emotional regulation, and social skills to reach their full potential.
The average life expectancy of a person with diagnosed FASD is just 34 years. 

The National Health and Medical Research Council’s (NHMRC) draft alcohol guidelines state that women who are pregnant or planning a pregnancy should not drink alcohol. 

Yet awareness of these guidelines in Australia remains low, resulting in continued alcohol use during pregnancy.
As 2016 results from the National Drug Strategy Household Survey show, an estimated 49 per cent of pregnant women drank alcohol before knowing they were pregnant, and 25 per cent continued to drink after knowledge of their pregnancy.

For women actively trying to conceive, 2020 Australian research showed 85 per cent recently consumed alcohol and 56 per cent had consumed more than 4 standard drinks on one occasion.

Qualitative research with Australian women indicates there is often confusion about whether alcohol should be avoided during pregnancy, and drinking during pregnancy is sometimes encouraged through beliefs that it is safe to have an occasional drink.

This polling report highlights the current low awareness of the health risks of alcohol during pregnancy. People in the most common age bracket for having children, 25-34 year-olds, had the lowest level of awareness of the danger of alcohol during pregnancy. Men were consistently less aware than women, which is concerning as Australian research indicates 75 per cent of pregnant women who drink usually drink with their partner, and that male partners initiate a drinking occasion nearly 40 per cent of the time.



FARE polled Australians as to their support and willingness to take action on health warnings about the risk of drinking alcohol during pregnancy.
Respondents could view the proposed new warning from Food Standards Australia New Zealand* and were told the intention was for this to replace the current label and make it mandatory.
The majority (70%) of Australians said they support this change and would be willing to take action on the issue.

  When analysing responses by gender and age, there are significant differences.
Those aged 25-34 years were the least aware (35% unaware), followed by those aged 35-49 years (28% unaware)
This is also the group most likely to be having children, with 31.4 being the median age for Mothers in Australia in 2018 and 33.5 for fathers.
Men are more likely (29%) to be unaware than women (17%) that no alcohol should be drunk while pregnant.

Analysis by each Australian state and territory was also conducted, using representative samples. This lack of awareness is particularly high in Victoria (26%), Queensland (25%)  
New South Wales (24%).


When asked to identify the health conditions associated with alcohol use during pregnancy, Australians’ level of awareness is low.
Almost one third (30%) of Australians are unaware that drinking alcohol during pregnancy can cause FASD.

Australians’ awareness that alcohol use during pregnancy can cause a failure to thrive for a newborn (lack of normal weight gain) is low at 53 per cent.
Similarly, awareness that stillbirth is a potential consequence of drinking during pregnancy is only 54 per cent.

Analysis by gender indicates significant differences in awareness.
Men are less aware than women of health conditions associated with alcohol use during pregnancy, particularly FASD (63% male awareness, 77% females).

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Fetal alcohol spectrum disorders
Other names Foetal alcohol spectrum disorders
Photo of baby with FAS.jpg
Baby with fetal alcohol syndrome, showing some of the characteristic facial features
Specialty Psychiatrypediatricstoxicology
Symptoms Abnormal appearance, short height, low body weight, small head size, poor coordination, behavior problems, learning problems[1][2]
Complications BabiesMiscarriagestillbirth 
AdultsAlcohol use disordersubstance use disorder
Duration Long term[1][3]
Types Fetal alcohol syndrome, Partial fetal alcohol syndrome, Alcohol-related neurodevelopmental disorder, Static Encephalopathy, Alcohol-related birth defects[1]
Causes Drinking alcohol during pregnancy[1]
Diagnostic method Based on symptoms[1]
Prevention Avoiding drinking alcohol during pregnancy[4]
Treatment Parent-child interaction therapy, efforts to modify child behavior, possibly medications[5]
Prognosis Varies depending on the victim. Life expectancy can range from 31 to 37. Average death age is 34.[6]
Frequency 1 in 20[7]
Fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASDs) are a group of conditions that can occur in a person whose mother drank alcohol during pregnancy. Symptoms can include an abnormal appearance, short height, low body weight, small head size, poor coordination, behavioural problems, learning difficulties and problems with hearing or sight. 
Those affected are more likely to have trouble in school, legal problems, participate in high-risk activities and have problems with alcohol or other drugs
The most severe form of the condition is known as fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS). 
Other types include Partial Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (pFAS), 
Alcohol-Related Neurodevelopmental Disorder (ARND), 
Static Encephalopathy
Alcohol-Related Birth Defects (ARBD), and 
NeurobehavioralDisorder Associated With Prenatal Alcohol Exposure (ND-PAE). 
Some accept only FAS as a diagnosis, seeing the evidence as inconclusive with respect to other types.
Fetal alcohol spectrum disorders are caused by a mother drinking alcohol during pregnancy. 
Surveys from the United States found that about 10% of pregnant women drank alcohol in the past month, and 20% to 30% drank at some point during the pregnancy.[ 
About 3.6% of pregnant American women are alcoholics. 
The risk of FASD depends on the amount consumed and the frequency of consumption as well as at what point in pregnancy the alcohol was consumed. Other risk factors include older age of the mothersmoking, and poor diet. There is no known safe amount or time to drink alcohol during pregnancy. While drinking small amounts does not cause abnormalities in the face, it may cause behavioral issues. 
Alcohol crosses the blood–brain barrier and both directly and indirectly affects a developing fetus. 
Diagnosis is based on the signs and symptoms in the person.
Fetal alcohol spectrum disorders are preventable by avoiding alcohol.

For this reason, medical authorities recommend no alcohol during pregnancy or while trying to become pregnant. 
While the condition is permanent, treatment can improve outcomes.
Interventions may include parent–child interaction therapy, efforts to modify child behavior, and possibly medications.
FASD is estimated to affect between 1% and 5% of people in the United States and Western Europe. 
FAS is believed to occur in between 0.2 and 9 per 1,000 live births in the United States. 
In South Africa, some populations have rates as high as 9%. 

The negative effects of alcohol during pregnancy have been described since ancient times. 
The lifetime cost per child with FAS in the US was $2,000,000 in 2002. 
The term 'fetal alcohol syndrome' was first used in 1973.

We have adopted and accepted a massive alcohol problem.
It is critical that this form of



Further Detailed Information and Support

IMG 0177 Our society has been so divided by the practice and unquestionable promotion
of idolatory behaviour in todays world. 
Most people have heard the 'all too easy' expression about needing to 
Love thy self.

This is all well and good, until we realise that unless we
actually possess,
mortgage free,
the self preserving esteem of
Yes, until we actually accept & return to possess self love we are incapable of giving love to any one.

One cannot give that which
One does not possess.

Emotional awareness to self idolatory behaviour has forever been within nature and seems to be adopted and promoted by all aspects of life where material and social benefits can be achieved through attachment to idolisation of material wares and human endeavours.
Self possessed by,
"Things & stuff".

Australia from space

Following here is a review to another amazing piece of literature which further acknowledges the disconnection with our move away from our spiritual connection to our life source as story tellers of time progressively lost contact with language of the universal spirit of life as they become mind driven and separated from the inner being arguing over the source of the Chicken & the Egg. 

We say practice Counselling because these days we find that each and every client teaches us more about the vagaries, expanding evolutionionary development and interrelated Universal connections to our air borne existence as mini micro human cells in the unlimited matrix of life. 

Yes in reality we most definitely have come quite a way from our ancestors when we start to consider the wisdom of those whose initial language development had an absolute & immediate connection to the life of our universal and earthly survival. 

Our work as Counsellors is about reconnecting people to the children they were born to be before they were cognitively led away to the never wilderness and left forever longing.
Left longing forever reaching out seeking love, wealth, material possessions, big homes, fast cars, social status, multiple partners.

Forever forgetting to see and appreciate the immediate surrounding air in which their body seeks and needs to live.

Todays society is comparable life of fish when we recognise that :
"The last thing fish discovers is water".
Or birds discover the wind beneath their wings.


Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

by Saul McLeod published 2007, updated 2014

Maslow wanted to understand what motivates people. He believed that people possess a set of motivation systems unrelated to rewards or unconscious desires.
Maslow (1943) stated that people are motivated to achieve certain needs. When one need is fulfilled a person seeks to fulfil the next one, and so on.
The earliest and most widespread version of Maslow's (1943, 1954) hierarchy of needs includes five motivational needs, often depicted as hierarchical levels within a pyramid.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs five stage pyramid.

This five stage model can be divided into basic (or deficiency) needs (e.g. physiological, safety, love, and esteem)
And growth needs (self-actualization).

The deficiency, or basic needs are said to motivate people when they are unmet.
Also, the need to fulfil such needs will become stronger the longer the duration they are denied.
For example, the longer a person goes without food the more hungry they will become.

One must satisfy lower level basic needs before progressing on to meet higher level growth needs.
Once these needs have been reasonably satisfied, one may be able to reach the highest level called self-actualization.

Maslow Spirit 
    1) Physiological:hunger, thirst, bodily comforts, etc.;
    2) Safety/security: out of danger;
    3) Belongingness and Love: affiliate with others, be accepted; and
  4) Esteem: to achieve, be competent, gain approval and recognition.

    Maslow later differentiated the growth need of self-actualization.
Specifically identifying two of the first growth needs as part of the more generallevel of self-actualization (Maslow & Lowery, 1998)
Second one beyond the general level that focused on growth beyond that oriented towards self (Maslow, 1971).
They are:
      5) Cognitive: to know, to understand, and explore;
      6) Aesthetic: symmetry, order, and beauty;


Being Single;

Korro  Bella"Yes", she said. "I am happy."

However, directed by my own pre-conditioned, social expectations and ignorance I replied.

"But wouldn't you like to be in a relationship"?

She waited, took her time considering her reply,
then she gently prized open my pre-conditioned dysfunctional socially believed attitude by confidentially replying.

"Aren't I enough as I am"?

Fortunately one never stops learning even though, 
Many lessons are,
At first rather tough to accept.

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In recent years there has been good exposure and discussion about work place harassment and bullying which is certainly unacceptable and disturbing.
In writing this we must say that there are always two sides to any disagreement which generally are based on attitudes of right and wrong conduct where one party feels hurt or offended by the manner in which they are spoken to, spoken of, or spoken about, actually abused or in their mind mistreated.
Too often this alienation of personalities creates an emotional division where the offended individual believes they should resist that which to their belief is unacceptable behaviour.

Such resistance by the offended party is too often met by an increase in expectation by the offender to enforce their self righteous belief. 

Neither party being prepared to surrender their ground and all surrounding and associated employees become distracted by the swirling emotional tension radiating through out the work place.

This leads to further division and even arguments in the work force.

So you come together as freshmen and freshwomen right out of "big school" thinking you are "all growed up", now you can get away without Mum & Dad knowing what you are up to, free and ready to rock and roll.

As if your parents don't already know just what your likely to get up to, having walked the identical early life romantic road as yourself.

All bells and whistles, parental freedom, pretty dresses, beautiful, radiant, nubile young women and muscle bound  prancing princes, shiny, energetic, strong free spirited young stallions bearing charming persuasion and good tidings.

Late &  even later nights, without curfew or delegated family mass attendance on Sunday morning, including the possibility of taking Holy Communion to dispell any imaginings of "naughty" sinful behaviour.

Dream connections. Maud Chalard 08



Pained Face of Shamed little boy

Here is another piece of work from the Good Men Project about Raising Boys with shame which I basically feel I understand, so I on posted and liked it to Facebook.

Our interest is in an ongoing study that we are calling “Accents of behaviour” or how we unwittingly adopt and develop our individual responding behaviours to stifle the internal discomfort (internal response) generated by those influencing development of our formative baby years.
More of the “what we see and hear is what we become” theme in accord with the “Little pigs have big ears” .

In the miracle of life we are granted complete self knowledge at conception. Miraculously our spirit of life  knows how to develop us in the womb placing all the organs, skeletal structure and essential bodily functions according to natures design for, in our case, humans.
Like respiration and digestion the miraculous process to exchange waste and exchange gas for new fuel also came with conception, as did our cardio vascular, nervous, visual, audio, sensory systems all introduced in perfect working order according to the DNA blue print contained within the merging of egg and sperm.
There is a mysterious thing
That existed before Heaven  and Earth,
Silent and empty,
Alone and unchanging,
Ceaselessly turning,
It is the Mother of All things.

If I must, I’ll call it “Great.”
Greatness entails transcendence.
Transcendence entails going beyond.
Going beyond entails return to the beginning.

Tao Te Ching XXV

Peak experience

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Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Essential Needs

Peak experience

  1.     A peak experience is a moment accompanied by a euphoric mental state often achieved by self-actualizing individuals.
  2.     The concept was originally developed by Abraham Maslow in 1964, who describes peak experiences as "rare, exciting, oceanic, deeply moving, exhilarating, elevating experiences that  generate an advanced form of perceiving reality, and are even mystic and magical in their effect upon the experimenter."
  3.    There are several unique characteristics of a peak experience, but each element is perceived together in a holistic manner that creates the moment of reaching one’s full potential.
  4.    Peak experiences can range from simple activities to intense events.
  5.    However, it is not necessarily about what the activity is, but the ecstatic, care-free feeling that is being experienced during it.

There is a mysterious thing
That existed before Heaven  and Earth,
Silent and empty,
Alone and unchanging,
Ceaselessly turning,
It is the Mother of All things.

If I must, I’ll call it “Great.”
Greatness entails transcendence.
Transcendence entails going beyond.
Going beyond entails return to the beginning.

Tao Te Ching XXV


Kahlil Gibran.
The story is about a religious leader in a town that everyone in  the town looked up to for spiritual guidance.
We will call the leader Pastor.
Basically it can be almost any denomination.

The pastor was an authority on sin, heaven, hell and all the rest and he taught the people all of these things and preached salvation.
 The pastor waged a consistent war against Satan.

One evening the pastor was out walking and he heard an anguished cry.
He looked and saw a battered man lying in the gutter.
His clothes were ripped and he was covered in blood. 

The man was crying,
"Save me, have mercy on me, please help me, I am dying".

The pastor did not want to get involved.
He thought that the man was probably drunk or on drugs or maybe he was a criminal and was in a fight with other criminals.
His first reaction was to keep going and not get involved.

As he kept walking, nervously looking over his shoulder the wounded man yelled.
"Please don’t leave me. I am dying".
The pastor then thought that possibly the man was insane or something.
He didn’t know what to do.

He kept walking but then the man called out.
"Please come close to me. You and I have been friends for a long time. Don’t you recognize me" ?.
"You pastor are the Good Shepherd, I am not a criminal, I am not insane.
Please you know me, come over to me and I will tell you who I am".

The pastor leaned down and said, "What do you mean, who I am. I don’t know you.
Who are you. ?

And the man struggled to talk through a bloody mouth.
"Oh! you know me.
"You’ve seen me a thousand times and you talk about me every day".
"I'm dearer to you then your own life". 

The pastor said, "Your also a liar. Your dying.
You better start telling the truth.
"I don’t know you. I've never seen your lying face before". 

The wounded man moved slowly, looked squarely into the pastors eyes and suddenly a small smile appeared on his bloody lips. 
In a deep smooth voice he then said.
"I am Satan".

The pastor recoiled  and screamed at the distorted face in the gutter,
"God has shown me your hellish image and justly caused me to hate you".

"Cursed be you forevermore,
The mangled lamb must be destroyed by the shepherd lest he will infect the other lambs".

Satan answered.
"Be not in haste pastor. Come and close my wounds quickly before life departs from my body". 

The pastor responded.
"These hands which offer a daily sacrifice to God. Shall not touch a body made from the secretions of hell. You must die accursed by the ages, for you are the enemy of all humanity and it is your purpose to destroy all virtue".

Satan painfully raised himself on one elbow.
"You don’t know what your saying, You don’t know what crime you are committing against yourself".

"Today I was walking alone, bothering no one when a band of angels descended to attack me and severely injured me. I would have been able to drive them off if it had not been for one who had a blazing sword with two sharp edges. I simply had no power against the brilliant sword".

Satan gasped and paused for a moment in obvious pain.
"The armed angel , I believe his name was Michael was an expert gladiator".
"Had I not fallen to the ground and pretended to be dead he would have torn me to pieces".

The pastor looked upward and said,
"Blessed be Michaels name who has saved humanity from this vicious enemy".

Satan painfully looked up at the pastor and said.
"You are blessing Michael who never has come to your rescue. You are cursing me in my hour of defeat, even though I was and still am the source of your tranquility and happiness".


"You deny me your blessing and extend not your kindness,
But you live and prosper in the shadow of my being".

"You have adopted for my existence an excuse and weapon for your career, and you employ my name in justification for your deeds.
Has not my past caused you to be in need of my present and my future"? 

"What is it pastor that you wish my death".
"Have you reached your goal in amassing wealth"?
"Have you found it impossible to extract more gold and silver
From your followers using my kingdom as a threat" ?

"Pastor, do you realize that you will starve to death if I die"?
"What would you do tomorrow if you allowed me to die today" ?
"What vocation would you pursue if my name disappeared"?

"For decades you have been roaming these villages and warning people against falling into my hands" . "They have paid for your advice with their dollars and the products of their land". 

"What would they buy from you tomorrow if they discovered that their wicked enemy no longer exists"? "Your occupation would die with me, for the people would be safe  from sin". 

"As a clergyman surely you realize that my existence alone has created my enemy the church".
"You and I together are the conflict which removes gold and silver from the faithful pockets and deposits it into the pouch of the preacher and the missionary".

"How can you permit me to die here when you know it will surely cause you to lose your prestige, your church, your home and your livelihood"?

"I am the Father and Mother of sin and if sin were to vanish the fighters of sin would vanish with it along with their families and structures".

And Satan stretched his arms and bent his head forward and gasped deeply. His face turned to grey. Then he fixed his glittering eyes upon the pastors face and said in a faltering voice.
"I am tired and weak. I did wrong by using my waning strength to speak on things you already know".

"Now you may do as you please".
"You may carry me to your home and treat my wounds or leave me in this place to die".

The pastor quivered and rubbed his hands and replied.
"I know now what I had not known an hour ago. Forgive my ignorance".
"I know that your existence in this world creates temptation and temptation is a measurement by which God adjudges the value of human souls".

The pastor continued.

"Satan, you must live for if you die and the people know it,  their fear of hell will vanish and they will cease worshipping for nothing would be sin".
"You must live for in your life is the salvation of humanity from vice and sin".

Satan laughed and replied.
"What an intelligent person you are pastor".
"What wonderful knowledge you posses in theological facts".
"You have found through the power of your knowledge a purpose for my existence which I had never understood and now we realize our need for each other".

"Come close to me my brother, darkness is submerging the plains, and half of my blood has escaped upon the sand of this valley and nothing remains of me but the remnants of a broken body which death shall soon buy unless you render aid".

The pastor then lifted Satan upon his back and walked toward his home

In the midst of those valleys, engulfed with silence and embellished with the veil of darkness, the pastor walked toward the village with his back bent under his heavy burden.
His black raiment and long beard were spattered with blood streaming from above him but he struggled forward, his lips moving in fervent prayer for the life of the dying Satan.


So there is the deep truth. The very normal aspect of positive and negative we have turned into a mythological Satan. A power that does not exist we have made into existence and the church and the Pastors must pray that Satan continues for if Satan was to disappear they too would disappear at least until they came up with another creation to cause guilt and fear. 
Today the great palaces of religion totally depend on Satan for their existence and their wealth.
This as I said earlier is from the treasure of Kahlil Gibran.


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We offer here yet another interpretation to the legendary story of the Prodigal son;
Seemingly synonymous with most indigenous scriptures, such ancient teachings have interesting anecdotal & potential meanings for those with "eyes to see and ears to hear".

Counselling is akin to assisting in the exposure of our basic psychological delusion from our founding customs, those adopted cultural & religiously indoctrinating influences which we treat as normal, as who we are.

There are just so many of those 'founding reasons' for shaping the expectation of emotional sadness, disappointment and pain often unintentionally delivered by denial of emotional nourishment & the associated consequential suppression & witholding of the pain.

Often we unwittingly inflict this habitual behaviour upon our self simply by being led 'off track' to be left, metaphorically, lost in the 'wilderness', constantly being tempted to practice avoidance behaviour which is forever prominent and promoted and advertised in the environment around us.

Subsequently we loose touch with our inner strength and confidence.

Essential self sustaining spiritual nourishment, natural healing becomes available by quietly sitting with a "free" mind, returning to the child and life we were born to be at that moment of our conception. 
Should you be troubled!
Surely you would like to find your way out of that aching empty soulless wilderness and be released into the kingdom of peace of mind  and contentment of self.


There is no better adviser on this extremely critical psychological issue than the self recovered John Bradshaw.
A man who rebuilt his life after being virtually abandoned to the wilderness by alcoholic parents who themselves had come from identically hopless environments,
so they knew no better.
baby korro
They knew no better, but thanks to John Bradshaw's determination to rid himself of the burden of this socially inflicted disabiling wound of toxic shame we have here the opportunity to "COME OUT FROM HIDING" and allow the healing to happen.

After developing our own bodies in utero, complete with all 7 vital systems, organs, & glands functioning perfectly we are all born pure, innocent, brilliant, wholesome little children.

Here is the link to a series of 6 short videos in which author
John Bradshaw
speaks of "Healing The Shame that Binds

panic_disorderPeople with panic disorder suffer severe attacks of anxiety which can make them feel as though they are having a heart attack or are going crazy. Symptoms include heart palpitations, chest pain or discomfort, sweating, trembling, dizziness, difficulty breathing and feelings of losing control.

Panic disorder involves at least one of these attacks followed by a month or more of persistent concern about either
a) having another attack,
b) worry that the attack means he or she is going crazy or has severe health problems, or
c) a significant change in behaviour as a result of the attack (e.g. avoiding places where an attack might occur).

The American Psychiatric Association (2000) defines a panic attack as fear or discomfort that arises abruptly and peaks in 10 minutes or less, and can occasionally last for hours. They are usually unpredictable, and this can lead a sufferer to avoid certain places or situations where a panic attack may occur and from where escape would be difficult or embarrassing.

Mother DucklingFOR MORE than 10,000 years, natural therapies have been used, while conventional medicine is but 100 years old. Natural therapis deserve the recognition universities have given them as they have healing modalities and benefits proven by credible and peer-reviewed research. The World Health Organisation estimates that more than 80 per cent of the world's population relies on natural therapies to treat, prevent and cure diseases, yet in Australia we have closed-minded colleagues determined to damage and bring into disrepute the entire natural health profession.
There is a mysterious thing
That existed before Heaven  and Earth,
Silent and empty,
Alone and unchanging,
Ceaselessly turning,
It is the Mother of All things.

If I must, I’ll call it “Great.”
Greatness entails transcendence.
Transcendence entails going beyond.
Going beyond entails return to the beginning.

Tao Te Ching XXV

ollowing on from our natural therapies understanding where we know our body has the ability to grow repair and heal itself from the moment of conception.

We need to to discover how to sustain health of body soul & mind, that magic world so brilliantly portrayed in the movie Avatar.




Us from the start:

Contained within the chromosomes of the female and the male species are all the essential ingredients, genetic intelligence and blue printed mapping which, when combined into one at the moment of fertilization produces a new being of the parent species.

We believe that in that instant of fertilization the component and energetic spark of life itself is transferred into the new being.

It is this spark of life which germinates and ignites the genetic intelligence which then begins to pulse and can be readily observed and recorded microscopically and later seen pulsing through ultra sounding technology.


That life is a force, once commenced does all it possibly can do to remain alive and initially nourishes itself on the yolk of the maternal egg soon imbedding itself into the already engorged wall of the uterus where the cyst oblast sack soon attaches itself parasitically whilst the activated genetic material gets on with natures plan to develop the entire new being.



Working with the debilitating mental, emotional and physical after math of Depression is becoming a daily occurrence in our Bondi Junction Counselling practice.

Here below are some articles which we on post from Beyondblue the nationally recognised organisation dealing with Depression.

One of the major deterrents to attending Counselling for the Australian community is the erroneous self held belief that we should be able to look after our self.
Unfortunately our social conditioning and childhood exposure to many and varied forms of dysfunctional social attitudes and behaviour leaves us with the belief which our psyche reverts to when ever some emotional trigger of discomfort activates a contracting fear driven response, an inward breath holding response from old learned unconsciously stimulated behaviour.

andrew_johnsAndrew Johns the amazing football player in a down moment.

His career was plagued by high personal expectations which most probably placed too great a demand on his total being and the slumps, wounds and disappointments were at times too distressing for him to manage, so he "partied" through them to arrive at an even great abyss to be met.



Master Therapist & Hakomi Founder Ron Kurtz
& Rod McClure
"Hakomi Is Gold"

Rod, I'm pleased to give you permission to link to the articles on my web page.
My regards


  The late Ron Kurtz RIP,

Explains His Hakomi Way


An edited extract from Julia Gillard's
John Curtin prime ministerial library's anniversary lecture. 

Silent struggle with mental illness:

John Curtin
Australian prime minister John Curtin in 1944, at the BBC in London.

 The more we return to John Curtin’s life, the greater his contribution appears, not just as a wartime leader and social reformer, but now – at last publicly and in a very modern way – as a disruptor, a mental health militant, if you will, even if he was unwilling to share that aspect of his personal story while he lived.
Curtin’s mental health journey resonates today with the work of beyondblue, particularly when it comes to men’s mental health. 



Observation by Rod McClure JP

Over the years many of us have experienced moments of anxiety to varying degrees.
Why it was  "just yesterday" when  I made mentioned my partner about one of her grand sons starting school that day.
Immediately her eyes welled with fresh tears as the realisation of the little baby boy was moving out of his infant zone and growing up to 'big school boy'.

Even though this little man has already experienced a graduation from "Gum Nuts" to "Dolphins". Now the big school calls for big hats and big school bags, new lunch boxes and big school clothes.

baby_bellakObviously this touching moment set off some deep seated or shallow seated lurking emotion memory within her being.
Following many years of self development our awareness to these natural instances becomes accepted, allowed, expressed and understood, after all there is a sense of bonding loss in such a weaning, a separation and with this there is natural grief to be experienced as there is with any loss.

We are experiencing more cases of anxiety in our work as the world "progresses".
Of course as we become more sensitive and familiar with our selves we also become more aware of this unconscious wound of separation which actually begins in this life at our day of birth. 
Some other esoteric teachings may take this situation to the beginning of living existence.

We prefer to just work from a level where all people may accept, their birth.
This infant has "bubbled "along dividing and developing for 280 or so days, or about 10 moons from conception.
All snug as a 'bug in a rug' tucked up in Mother's warm nourishing womb and then at some pre determined hour the flood gates open and we are pressured to make our way out down a narrow dark passage and into this whole new noisy world of bright lights, new sterile smells and the incredible and frightening experience of having air enter our lungs as the embryonic fluids and fetal meconium are cleared from our air ways .

Now the once little boy is finishing high school woosh.........




Now we may easily imagine the two tablets of stone being the left and right hemispheres of the brain into which has been scored the commandments which were later interpreted as rules and regulations for getting on with your brothers and sisters and cousins and in laws, all.

We could then imagine ourselves going up that mountain within ourself to the very same place for some inner conversation and enlightenment from the "free side" of consciousness which connects us as one with the universe and so we become prophetic and connected to previously unimagined possibilities.

Extending the possibilities of these amazing exciting options for change allows us to oversee "psychological walls" of conditioning from a simpler more organic natural perspective which immediately reveals the open pathways of prior hedges and obstructions. The path is instantly revealed when in that elevated detached frame of mind.

Realizations, new learning occur here in this place of mindfulness.

heart to brain

Serpentine spine


Spiritual Implications of Brain Research

by Peter Holleran

"There is no machine that can measure a person's realization."

- Tsoknyi Rinpoche

This will be a short summary of the results of brain-wave studies conducted on mediators over the past thirty years, and conclusions that may be drawn from them.

One of the first areas of study involved Transcendental Meditation (TM). While touting the many healthy benefits of meditation, it was shown that TM reduced certain brain wave frequencies and increased others in research subjects, which was assumed to imply stress reduction. There has been much written, both pro and con regarding these results and other effects of the technique and organization.

According to TM, slowing alpha activity during meditation indicates deeper relaxation. This conclusion was challenged, however, by Arthur Janov and his associates at the Primal Institute in Los Angeles. Janov conducted his own studies after having some advanced Vedanta monks come to his clinic for therapy after suffering nervous breakdowns. Janov was of the opinion after seeing such types that meditation was definitely "anti-primal", or dissociative of the body and feelings.

His research showed that in neurotic meditators (i.e.,those who had not done primal therapy) the results were similar to those produced by the TM people, with reduced alpha and beta wave frequencies, but that the wave amplitude was increased, which to him implied that an element of deep repression still existed in the meditators.

In other words, the TM form of meditation they did only achieved symptom suppression (pseudo-calmness) and not deep release or healing of core repressed pain. The natural history of the nervous system remained intact, and there was no integration between the reptilian, limbic, and cortical levels of the brain, which when achieved Janov saw as the sign of mental health and freedom from neurosis.


A Simpler Way

Margaret Wheatley & Myron Kellner-Rogers

Being conversant with Margaret J Wheatley's earlier work in Leadership and the New Science a 1992 publication by Berrett- Koehler Publishers Inc. we came upon a review of the above book by Paul Schumann and decided to post some points of interest from that review here on our Relationship Counselling segment for those people interested in expanding their understanding of self, systems generation and group dynamics as we progress towards a wholesome momentary understanding, towards the ever evolving possibility and potential of the ‘self'.

Burning Child  Alex Milov

"Aggression is inherently destructive of relationships." 

People and ideologies are pitted against each other, believing that in order to survive, they must destroy the opposition."
Margaret J. Wheatley

So our Counselling motto is

If we change the way we look at things the things we look at can change.

This way we all have the opportunity to grow and progress towards a wholesome organism

To actually become aware of the self just as we are in the moment..


Our intention here is for the possibility of seeing that maybe we could get on better with those around us if we loosened up some of our old attitudes and expectations.

That is of course taking into consideration the possibility that we are prepared to ‘turn the other cheek' or in other words step back for moment and mindfully study and observe what is occurring with in us at any given moment when we feel some what disturbed, up set, angry, offended or excited.


"Facing Off" with the LOVE ABLE SELF

helenAnthropologist Helen Fisher studies gender differences and the evolution of human emotions.
She's best known as an expert on romantic love, and her beautifully penned books -- including Anatomy of Love and Why We Love -- lay bare the mysteries of our most treasured emotion.

In this recent lecture anthropologist Helen questions us and discusses love.

Why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it?

To learn more about our very real, very physical need for romantic love, Helen Fisher and her research team took MRIs of people in love -- and people who had just been dumped.

This makes for some very interesting primal, organic, biological questioning and most definitely sheds more light and knowledge into our basic need for a mate to share the intimacy associated with the highest prize of relationship.


In human relationships an enmeshed person can't distinguish the difference between their needs, feelings, opinions, and priorities and their partners or that of fellow family members. Forever adjusting their own behaviour to ensure those in the enmeshment system remain contented . We don't want any body upset do we?
This way the individual may believe they are actually fulfilling the Christian ethos of "do unto others as they would do unto you.".

In relationship therapy exposure of this condition we may discover either, both or all parties have had a significantly undernourished circumstancial, childhood.

"We're enmeshed when we use another individual to express our identity, sense of value, worth, well-being, safety, purpose, and security. Instead of two people present, we become one identity.

More simply, enmeshment is present when our sense of wholeness comes from another person.

We hear enmeshment phrases everyday such as, "I'd die without you," "You're my everything," "Without you, I'm nothing," "I need you," or "You make me whole." Many of us find our identity and self-worth by becoming the mate, parent, or friend of a successful and/or prestigious individual, or we find the need to fix and caretake individuals to give us a sense of purpose.

Enmeshment doesn't allow for individuality, wholeness, personal empowerment, healthy relationships with ourselves or others, and, most importantly, a relationship with our Higher Power."


I get a kick out of you

Over the course of history it has been artists, poets and playwrights who have made the greatest progress in humanity's understanding of love. Romance has seemed as inexplicable as the beauty of a rainbow.
But these days scientists are challenging that notion, and they have rather a lot to say about how and why people love each other.


Scientists are finding that, after all, love really is down to a chemical addiction between people

Is this useful?
The scientists think so.
For a start, understanding the neurochemical pathways that regulate social attachments may help to deal with defects in people's ability to form relationships.
All relationships, whether they are those of parents with their children, spouses with their partners, or workers with their colleagues, rely on an ability to create and maintain social ties.
Defects can be disabling, and become apparent as disorders such as autism and schizophrenia - and, indeed, as the serious depression that can result from rejection in love.
Research is also shedding light on some of the more extreme forms of sexual behaviour.
And, controversially, some utopian fringe groups see such work as the doorway to a future where love is guaranteed because it will be provided chemically, or even genetically engineered from conception.


APost fropm June 2009
Many changes and updates have come to awareness since that time as we beging to AWAKEN from the unconscious oblivion where society has been led by the insanity and fear of patriarchal insistence and materialistic domination. (at July 2021.)

malteseBaby & Childhood Bonding.

Looking into the window of a pet shop is always such an evocative emotional experience for us as we see those beautiful little puppies scraging, jumping over, mauling and chewing each others ears, tails and legs as they shower us with innocent "puppy love".

They love and need to stay in contact with each other, to keep each other company, within contact to the heart beat of their mates, brothers and sisters.

Have you ever bothered to consider just why it is that they attract so much of our attention and sensitivity, why we are so drawn to all baby creatures?

Of course pet shop operators know what a draw card these free, rollicking, living furry balls of love are and so they are always have "puppies" out there on full display, if the cabinet is empty we might even feel "ripped off" disappointed, having missed out on that loving and often sad feeling sensed with us.

Bonding is simple enough, but not always easy; it can happen but may not; and, as wondrous as it is, some have misunderstood the idea and made it seem unnecessary.

When the last pup of the litter (or display box) is left alone it will whine and become absolutely distraught.

So too might its brothers and sisters when they are weaned off early and sent to different homes become villainous and seemingly quite destructive by chewing any thing and everything left lying around including all the used and unused tissues, old news papers, shoes, slippers, thongs pretty well anything left loose that it can find to play with, including saved up and well hidden Easter eggs.

Through the study and observation of animals and their behaviour we are able to learn quite a deal about ourselves and the bonding relationships between Mother and child and Grand Mother and Grand child which makes for a very interesting study and comment.

LOVE (The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran)

The Prophet
Kahlil Gibran

kahil gibranThen said Almitra, "Speak to us of Love."
And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them. And with a great voice he said:
When love beckons to you follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.

And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.

Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.

Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.

All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.

But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor, Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart," but rather, I am in the heart of God."

And think not you can direct the course of love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself.

But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;

To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.


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