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Domestic Violence DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
Domestic Violence DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
| DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. |
Page 1 of 2  Dedicated in memory of the Late Hannah Carter & her family. When this article was initially prepared my consciousness was dominated by the most Recent male perpetrator of Domestic Violence Who had murdered his wife & their 3 little children
In the most wicked sickening & violent attacks imaginable.
*********** Reviewed Startled by the 2020 Mardi Gras my minds attention fortunately shifted. To the joy of loving connection. All genders & all ages seek loving connecting relationships. With this I now seek readers permission to excuse, where ever Necessary the previous predominance of male references to now Include LBGTQ, & straight Females in Violent relationships If the previous oversight may have be applicable to you. Fundamentally the article is intended to address Domestic Violence.  Do we really want to?  Do we really want to Know why most
People especially Men & Blokes
“Bottle up” Pain felt emotional
Sensations?  Could this possibly be an unconscious, autonomously inherent fear , Or permanent ungratified primal function within mankind? Breeches of Trust Relationship intimacy whether Straight or Gay Open or Monogomous experience identical Emotionally sensitive experiences when it comes to
Breeches & Abuse of Trust, Honesty & Faithful commitment. Threat: Once elevated, an ever present nervous system may automatically respond To any perception of criticism which instantly Triggers physiological & emotional Sensations Of “ alarm”.....danger. To Fight or Fly for the individuals' entire life. Treatment: 1. Identified, 2. Studied, 3. Understood 4. Professionally modified. Unless this behaviour of instantaneous defensive response is therapeutically 1. Identified, 2. Studied, 3. Understood 4. Professionally modified.
Within the inner being, through Essential self development Counselling Such dysfunctional behaviour shall persist to burden the entire life. When a person is fearful, all concentration goes to calming the fear with no thought for any other task. For a person to develop fully as a human being there must be some freedom from fear of personal attack, particularly in one's own home. (Maslow's Heirarchy of Essential Needs.) Unfortunately Egotistically reinforced,
Dysfunctional social indoctrination, Is habitually & unconsciously adopted to ignore ever present Uncomfortable emotional feelings & sensations. Feelings of Being "Second best” "Too small" or “Never enough” For life..... Such habitual repititive autonomous behaviour may leave many people
Repeatedly yet unconsciously reinforcing their habitual behaviour To deny, over ride, reject Or Outright ignore their emotional feeling hoping to : "Get over it" "Suck it up" & "Move on" or "Get a life" As often instructed by their Peers, Judges & Contempories To any disturbing emotional sensations of Stress or distress. Consequently many folk become their own worst enemy in maintaining Disempowering, self defeating, negative beliefs & corresponding Avoidant behaviour/s. For example when loosing a grand final folk habitually avoid distress of
Seasonal disappointment by using alcohol, drugs, gambling, travel, Or obliviously demand sexual relief To over ride their emotional distress. Overloaded with residual regret, disappointment & sorrow, they return To the game....vowing to do better & will try again. Repeat offenders live, with unaddressed residual emotional burden. In domestic relations it is generally the dominant partner who is Autonomously driven to win To avoid the vile feeling of rejection Until that moment when... A violent brain snapping explosion takes physical possession THEY STRIKE  Hoping to stop the repetitive unconsolable discomforts of: "Embarrasment, shame, loss, regret, inadequacy, guilt, humiliation, stupidity, insufficency". "What Ever" ! Observer "A critical note is to appreciate that most offenders may remain Oblivious to these repressed Unidentified aspects & toxic characteristic of their behaviour. For this very reason there is resistance to even consider Any need or desire to change". Just as there possibly is or maybe for some now as you read this material. Such self indoctrination locks many folk into righteous self belief & they see No need to learn a different way or different language to be heard, Respected, appreciated & understood. Most people actually believe 'they are who they are' even when Children can see the "Naked King".  "Similarly in domestic relationships the male is autonomously driven to avoid the vile feeling of rejection until he violently explodes & strikes out hoping to stop HIS uncontrolable discomfort of "Embarrasment, shame, loss, regret, inadequacy, guilt, humiliation, stupidity, insufficency". "What Ever" ! Of being “put out”, not chosen, dropped, beaten, unwanted. So they kills them self by suicide or Kills others to avoid & put a STOP to that Empty, lonely, isolated, unwanted, mind possessing feeling. Feelings of Being cast aside, becoming an isolated lonely Out caste Shameful reinforcement, being an unloved, unwanted, rejected Out caste. Across society we have lots of mates who have no idea who they
really are, This is why we continue to see a woman killed weekly by her former partner. Of course men & children too, also die at the hands of women. Metaphorically, our human forest is heavily littered with material &
information so let us join together & have a meaningful discussion to stem the Ravaging Fires of Domestic Violence. We need lots of willing volunteers & unlimited resorces to address this Emotionally lingering toxic accumulation of pain, innocence & ignorance. See NSW State Minister's call for help. . Rod McClure JP
Psychotherapist 777counselling.com
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